Mummy says….. ‘MeeMee, Pickle’s eldest sister is going into her second year of Uni and I thought I would share with you 5 things that mums should know about University. I have learnt these things over the last year, and if you are facing your child going to Uni for the first time, they may help.’
1. After the initial moving in, she will not want you near her accommodation. You are just not cool enough. Until moving out day that is.
2. No matter how excited she is, and eager to start her new life, she WILL get homesick. After a few days or, more than likely, a few weeks. Reassure her. Talk to her. Listen to her. It is normal. Do NOT go rushing up there.
3. Be prepared for periods of non-contact longer you have known before. You will learn that there is nothing wrong, she is just busy partying / shopping / sleeping – oh, and I almost forgot – possibly studying!
4. When she does answer the phone to you, it will be a rushed ‘I can’t really talk because it is dinner time / I have just come in / I am just going out. It is NOT you – there is just no ‘right’ time to call a very busy Uni student.
5. Don’t be shocked when you learn that the £9,000 a year fees only provide around 6 – 16 (if you are lucky!) hours of actual lectures a week.
6. Or when you need a small loan to buy the required books for the course.
7. Practice your totally unshocked face (and voice) for when she lets slip that one of her flat mates / friends / peers is addicted to prescribed drugs or takes legal highs or worse.
8. Resist the huge urge to yell ‘Well you better not be!’ She is your child. You have guided her this far. She knows right from wrong.
9. Let go. You gave her wings, now you have to let her fly. She is an adult now. She has adult lessons to learn. Let her learn them.
10. Take a deep breath when she spends her first grant / loan payment on MAC make up and clothes. Remember Number 9!
And make sure ….
1. You tell her you love her at least once a day. By text or email if need be.
2. She knows that you are always there for her. Always. No matter what.
3. You try – as much as you possibly can – to answer any calls from her. She has made time in her busy schedule to call you. The least you can do is drop everything to answer the call 😉
4. She knows that home is still her home.
5, She knows she can call you at any time to ask or talk about anything. Whatever she opens up to talk about, let her talk without jumping in and asking questions. She will then open up more to you.
You might also be interested in my University Tips and printable checklist.