When we’re younger, we are often in a state of mind that everything is possible, and that we can be whoever we want to be. Then the hard reality of life sets in. We have to work very hard for every thing. We have to not only pay attention to our mental, physical and social health, but also reflect on who we are and try to be better, try to be the best version of ourselves we can be….
Of course, that’s not to say this is impossible to do. But it can just knock the wind out of our sails. As we get a little older, we might find that we’re simply going through the motions, and despite loving our families unconditionally, that feeling of love for life can be hard to completely reignite. Depressive tendencies can often be masked as this, so if you feel this acutely, it’s best to see a healthcare professional. But sometimes, that feeling is just a very natural consequence of our lives. With these tips you should find the fun in your life again, and reinvigorate yourself as a result.
Give Yourself Time
Giving yourself time to experience life can seem almost impossible. How on earth are we supposed to find time to relax, and to pay attention to that very moment? We often think to the future, but often forget to live in the present, and we know this which makes things worse. How on earth can we live in the moment when we have so many things we need to plan for? It’s actually simple:
Pay attention to that which you’re doing right now. It’s likely reading this post. Listen to the sounds around you. Where are you? How comfortable are you breathing? What is the temperature you can feel on your skin? Are you relaxed or in a high-energy state? Simply noticing yourself in the present moment is an act of meditation, and you will be able to do this more and more if you practice. This can lead to an ability to slow down the perception of time, because now is the only time we ever have.
This might seem like a simple stress-busting consideration, but it’s more than that. It can help you invigorate your love for life because it stops you from functioning on autopilot, and gives you the tools to actually notice that which is happening around you. It’s not uncommon to see people’s moods lift when they do this, at the very least they can process their current emotions more, and give themselves the space to feel it. So step one to be able to love your life again is to notice it, right here and now, because that’s all you ever have to work with.
Do Something Daring
The easiest thing in the world is to fall into a schedule and habit. You move into a new apartment in the city, with a workplace one mile away. It’s far enough to walk you think, and summer is on the way – so why not? There are a few winding streets to your destination, and it takes you a little time to figure out your path or to read the map on your phone, and before you know it you’re there. That night, you head back, paying attention to the map again just in case. Then the next day comes, and you know the way. Two months pass, and you don’t even have to think about the way, you just walk. We’re wired to exercise familiarity, and to appreciate convenience. This leads to a stable and predictable experience, something that many of us appreciate as security.
The only negative to this is that sometimes it can lead us to feel less interested in our surroundings. We might not pay attention to what is around us for years when we walk the same route. But take another side street even though it takes a little longer, and you feel that initial charge of interest. This is a microcosm for a truth that many of us could find rewarding to adopt. Why not do something that makes you see the world with fresh eyes?
It doesn’t have to be skydiving, or learning how to survive in the jungle for six weeks to find the next hidden species. You might simply try out that new cafe nearby, bringing a book to read in the morning. You might invite a friend from work for dinner finally. You might decide to take a simple drive to a local landmark with a friend, or you might take part in something you’ve always wanted to.
There are many things you can achieve in this life. Simply going out and finding how could be where the true fun starts. There’s always something you can do, even with time constraints. You might decide to head on that local hike you’ve had recommended to you. You might decide to challenge yourself to attend the gym twice this week. You might hope to read that autobiography before the weekend.
Maybe you’d like to start a special project of your own. Creating is something that comes to humans naturally, and if you’re not exercising this aside from your working efforts, you’ve likely missed out on how wonderful this feeling can be. Of course, raising a family is perhaps the most impressive creative project ever!
Why not go back to something you loved? You might want to start a blog and discuss your thoughts online or start a YouTube channel, or open your own online store on a website such as eBay or Etsy. You might finally start your novel, or perhaps even try to better qualify yourself with a distance learning accounting degree. The possibilities are endless, and often we feel our lives are best lived when we are stimulated.
One of the hardest things to do is accept ourselves. An unhealthy self-image might be something you need to work on, or in extreme cases require professional help. But if you simply find you’re always giving yourself a hard time, it might be a good opportunity to take a step back and consider why. If you had a friend who said the things to you that you often said to yourself, would you be friends with that person? What’s one thing you can give yourself a break for today? Might it help you relax a little?
Accepting yourself isn’t easy. It takes time, energy and sometimes, an ability to abandon the rational nature of this voice and simply love yourself regardless, provided you know you’re acting a mostly loving, capable way throughout the day. This could be considered the first step to mental health. After all, how can you expect to love your life again if you have no love for yourself? Take care of yourself. Feel proud of your achievements. Every now and again, give yourself a random gift, because if you act as if you’re worthy, you’ll likely start believing you are. And you are 🙂