Mummy says… I am so very lucky. I have my health, my parents, other family and my four wonderful children. I have great friends and have recently found a very special man who I am enjoying spending some time with. Yes, I struggle to make ends meet, yes I find it tough at times being a single mum and yes, I have days where I just want to run away. But generally, life is good. But what happens when life throws you a curve ball?…
We all know of someone who this has happened to. It may have happened to you. You may be facing goodness knows what at the moment – and if you are, my heart goes out to you.
I hear so many stories of incidents that make me count my blessings and thank my lucky stars that I am as blessed as I am.
One of my best friends suffered a massive trauma a few years ago, when her eldest son was the driver in a car accident. He walked away with minor injuries, but his brother who was a passenger was thrown from the car, suffering life threatening injuries, he had to be air lifted to a major brain trauma hospital. So TWO of her sons were in the accident.
She sat by his bedside for days whilst he was in an induced coma. She did not leave. She kept it together for him, and eventually he regained consciousness but he was in hospital for months. As he slowly recovered, the doctors and my friend realised that something was wrong with his throat. An emergency tracheostomy was carried out at the roadside which saved her sons life, but it was not carried out correctly and left him with permanent damage to his vocal chords. He can only talk just louder than a whisper, and he also cannot carry out activities he used to love such as football and cycling as he gets really breathless.
My friend was advised that she could pursue medical negligence as the procedure was a routine one, and should have been carried out correctly. But, however it was done it did save her sons life.
My friend refused at first – she was just thankful that her son was her. That he was alive. But as time went on, and her son slowly healed in many ways, he was also left with a permanent arm injury due to irreparable nerve damage. He will never be able to live a full life. He was only 16 when he had the accident. He had his whole life ahead of him.
So, as time went on my friend realised that her son will need support for the rest of his life. And she was going through a divorce, working three jobs to try and support her other children. After much deliberation, and lots of meetings with advisers, she decided that she would pursue the claim. It was not a decision she took lightly, she has struggled massively with guilt. Her son needs all the help he can get.
The one thing that has helped my friend come to terms with the whole awful situation was counselling. She managed to access specific counselling for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is what she suffered with the shock of the accident.
It will take a long time for the claim to reach its conclusion, and it was an incredibly hard decision to make, but I do understand and support my friend. I would have made the same decision, would you have?