Mummy says…. ‘I can’t believe that my youngest daughter, Lea, is leaving school this year, and in a few weeks has her Prom Night.
It seems like yesterday that my eldest daughter, MeeMee was having her Prom Night- she is 20 in July and at the end of her second year in Uni. Prom night is one of the biggest nights of the year for 16 year olds, and is celebrated in different ways. Due to, erm, unruly behaviour in the past, there is only one venue that will take 200 lively, merry 16 year olds.
It is not particularly glamorous, but it does not dampen the excitement of the teens in any way.
So, as I enter the wonderful world of Prom Night for a second time, here are my top tips (for teen daughters, my sons haven’t reached this yet!):
- Talk to your daughter about what sort of dress she wants as early as possible. We started last Autumn, saying that, we still haven’t bought one and it is in four weeks! Eeeek! Check the internet for any sales. If she sees a dress she likes, and it fits, get it! If it nearly fits, see if you can alter it.
- Find out the latest / most popular make up / tan / hair style etc and book whoever does it asap. I mean, you could be talking months in advance. With us, one lady ‘does’ HD brows as all the girls want them. Crazy, but true.
- Take advantage of any friends who ‘do’ make up and / or hair. Check with your daughter first. You could arrange a few of the girls to get ready at yours together.
- 4. If a limo / party bus is involved, book as soon as you can.
- She will drink alcohol. Or, it is highly likely that she will. Not at the venue, but before. Talk to your teen about it, the risks, implications, repercussions etc. Did you know that it is NOT illegal for a child from age 5 – 16 years old to drink alcohol on private premises?
- Arrange pre-prom drinks at your house, if you have room – for your teen and close friends, or if it is at someone else’s home, go along. Speak to other mums and tell your teens that you are all going. You want to see them off don’t you?
- Remind her about safety, personal boundaries and safe sex. I want all bases covered – prevention and knowledge is better than cure. Drink spiking, saying no, whatever you think. She WILL tut, roll her eyes at you and sulk, muttering ‘whatever.’ But you are the mum, it is your job 😉
- Also talk about social media, especially apps such as SnapChat where a scene can be spread in a nano second. In my day, the worst was gossip in the playground!
- Make sure you know the itinerary for the evening – how and when she is getting home. If she is having a sleepover afterwards, make sure you know how she is getting there, and that it is happening.
- Boost her confidence, tell her to have fun, to enjoy every minute. She will never forget this night.
I hope my tips help you if you are facing Prom Night. If you are cuddling your toddler, thinking ‘Oh this isn’t going to happen for YEARS’, then let me just say, you will literally blink and it will be your turn. If your teen is counting down to Prom Night, then I hope she has a magical evening – trust her, and don’t worry!