Show Violence the Red Card

Show Violence the Red Card

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Mummy says…. I had quite a shock yesterday – my youngest daughter, Lea told me something that shocked me deeply regarding domestic abuse…

Show Violence the Red Card

According to Pathway Project Domestic Abuse rates increase by 38% when England lose at football.

Isn’t that absolutely horrific?

I can’t even comprehend this statistic.

I have suffered domestic abuse – something I don’t share on my blog really, it is very painful and still very raw for me. It never fails to amaze me how many women (yes, and men too – although the vast majority are women) suffer at the hands of men.

So, your favourite football team loses – you are upset, and you abuse your partner?????

Really???? I cannot even believe I am typing such a thing. I am a mum to two daughters aged 18 and 21 and two sons aged 15 and 5. If I manage nothing else, I will make sure they all know that domestic violence of any description is always, always totally 100% unacceptable.

I have suffered emotional and mental abuse for almost twenty years – only finally completely breaking free earlier this year. Even though I was no longer with my ex-partner he was still emotionally abusing me – and I didn’t even realise.

There is more help available now than ever before for sufferers of Domestic Abuse, and I want to spread the word about this help and support.

There are many ways to access help – I love the idea of this email support which is available 8.30 – 15.00 talktoeve@pathway-project.co.uk

There is also a 24 hour helpline 01543 676800

Domestic abuse isn’t just violence
Many people think that if they aren’t being hit, punched, strangled or physically attacked they are not victims of domestic abuse. This is a complete myth. There are many, many ways that people can abuse someone and many of the most damaging do not involve any physical contact. If you are concerned then the following questions might help you:

  • Does your partner call you names or put you down in front of others?
  • Do they isolate you from family and friends?
  • Do they withhold money?
  • Have there been any sexual assaults?
  • Do they make threats towards you?

Emotional abuse is one of the most damaging types of abuse and the effects stay with you a lot longer than physical scars.

If you are reading this post and it resonates with you in any way at all, please pop over to the website, or call or email. I am happy for you to email me too if you would rather – icklepicklex@gmail.com

Please don’t suffer any more. Let’s Show Violence the Red Card. Kaz x

7 Comments

  1. I also saw this statistic on social media and I was so shocked. Thankfully my partner is super supportive and doesn’t have an abusive bone in his body but I always try to watch out for warning signs with friends and family. It something that shouldn’t be tolerated and we need to support and help each other.

    Katie xoxo

  2. I also saw this statistic. It’s horrifying isn’t it! Whilst it shouldn’t happen and we shouldn’t need them it is good to know organisations are helping people in this situation.

  3. Gosh I would never had thought, that is a horrendous statistic and I pray that those men and women doing the abuse can see how wrong it is and be convicted to change. Mich x
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  4. We have a poster about this at work, it is a shocking statistic isn’t it

  5. That statistic is so scary, I think that’s why I don’t like football at all because I don’t get the hooliganism that goes along with it and how people can get so angry and take it out on someone else – that’s shocking – with any sport or for any reason – yes to showing it the red card, never acceptable whatever the reason
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  6. It’s a shocking statistic no doubt, but having seen fights in pubs over football it doesn’t surprise me. They take all that drinking and aggression from the match home with them and take it out on their partner because they think they can get away with it. It’s horrendous and it needs to stop.

  7. Oh my gosh that is absolutely horrific, like you I just can’t comprehend such a statistic. It really is so scary especially when I think about my own children and when they are grown up. I hope they never have to suffer just like nobody should have to suffer!
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