Mummy says…It seems like only yesterday that your child was toddling around in nappies, and now they’re getting married. Being the parent of a child that is getting married is incredibly exciting and also a little daunting. Naturally, you want to help your adult child plan their wedding as much as you can, but without getting too involved and upsetting anyone. With both my daughters now adults, this is something I will be thinking about in the not too distant future…
As a parent, you always want to help your child in any way that you can, even once they’ve reached adulthood. A wedding is a big deal, so naturally you want to be there to help your child plan for their perfect big day. The question is, of course, how should you go about doing that – what steps should you take?
Ask them what help they’d like
Instead of presuming that you know what your child and their partner would want, take the time to ask them. Plan a family meeting and ask your child and their partner what help they would like when it comes to planning their big day. If they’re not sure, perhaps you could suggest some areas that you think you’d be useful helping out with, such as choosing the flowers, picking a colour scheme, or helping to pick the cake. Don’t over step the mark, remember that it’s their day, and that it’s important to do whatever they want you to do.
Give them ideas
As a parent, the chances are that you have lots of ideas for your child’s wedding, and want to share them with them. The best way to do this is to ask your child if they have a Pinterest wedding board, and then get them to add you as a contributor. That way you can send them ideas that you think they’d like, and they can approve them. For instance, you might see a wedding venue, like Clevedon Hall that you think they’d love, you could use Pinterest to share the venue with them. Every time that you see a photo of something that you think they’d like, whether it’s on Pinterest or on another site, or even in a magazine, you can save or take a photo and then send it to them via Pinterest.
Provide a financial contribution
Traditionally, it was the bride’s family who paid for and hosted the entire wedding. Today however, that tradition has disappeared, and often it’s both families that cover the cost of the couple’s nuptials, along with the bride and groom, of course. Whether it’s your daughter or son that is getting married, a financial contribution towards the cost is a nice gesture to make, and is something that they will most probably really appreciate.
Your child getting married is an incredibly exciting time, and one that you most probably want to be an important part of. But what it’s crucial to remember is that it’s their day, and it’s vital that you don’t over step the mark and get too involved in their planning. However, there are plenty of ways that you can get involved and help them to plan.
Have you any tips to help your adult child plan their wedding?