Letter to my Teenage Son

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Mummy says …

Today, 29 July 2015, my eldest son turns 13. A teenager. At last, he says. I have a teenage son – no way, I say!

13 years ago, at 1.01am I gave birth to my first baby boy – I was standing up – and had stood for most of my labour, despite the objections of some more ‘old school’ midwives.

It was still common then to be persuaded to lie on the hospital bed for labour and birth, but neither my baby, nor me, were very happy in that position. It’s funny because Pickle, my other son, who was born in 2012 was exactly the same!

There was still a concern that I would need an emergency caesarean – my eldest daughter MeeMee was born that way six years earlier, and despite having a natural birth with no problems with Lea, three and a half years later, the midwives / doctors were still on standby for a ECS.

I had gone into hospital on 27 July – my dad’s birthday – and there began a very slow, very drawn out labour. I stayed in that night – I was having contractions, but by the morning they had gone! My partner S and I walked around, and went up to a big Tesco that was fairly new. Most of my waters broke in there! We had to buy some cheap clothes in the sale!

It was still hours later before he was born. I am sure at one point I was told he was breech – but he did turn himself. He then lay with his back to my back in the womb, which makes for a very slow labour indeed.

At 9.30pm on 28 July, the nurse suggested Pethadine and a sleep for me. My gut instinct was no, if I have Pethadine, I will end up with a ECS as the drug will have slowed everything down. I refused, and suddenly – I swear it was as though the baby heard me – he turned, and we were off! Three and a half hours later he arrived. Natural, perfect, my first son. I cannot find my photos of Luke the day he was born – they are somewhere so safe I can’t find them!! Here he is at 2 and 3 years old.

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Now 13 years later, I have so much to say to my boy, as he becomes a teenager – a step closer to being a young man.

My Dearest Luke

As you turn 13, I am so proud of you, and the young man you are growing into. Things haven’t been easy the last few years, especially for you, and for that and my part in it I am deeply sorry.

You are such an important, much needed and much loved part of our family, everyone loves you very much.

How did you get so big? Where has 13 years gone? It seems like yesterday I was sat in the hospital room, overjoyed that we had a son.

I have so many wishes for you….

*Be happy – do what makes your heart sing.

*Be a boy – a messy, forgetful, curious boy.

*Know, always, at every single moment of every single day, how much you are loved.

*Have fun! Explore, learn, find out, quench your thirst for knowledge through fun.

*Push your own boundaries – take a step out of your comfort zone – who knows where it will take you.

I wanted to give you roots to support you and wings to fly. Go fly my son – knowing I am always here to catch you.

I hope you have had a wonderful birthday, I love you more than you will ever know.

 

Mum x x x

 

25 Comments

  1. What a lovely letter, 13 is such a huge age x
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  2. That’s a lovely keepsake for your son (even if he possibly doesn’t think so now). Beautifully written. Happy birthday to Luke!
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  3. Oh wow I bet it seems like it was just the other day you had him – time flies way to fast – I cannot believe Mr A is going to be 5 soon – eek that is scary enough let along a teenager but he sounds like a wonderful boy

    Laura x
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  4. Aww! How lovely to read! I hope your boy has a wonderful birthday!
    I can’t imagine being a mother of a teen even though my girl is 13 at the beginning of September…lol
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  5. A lovely post – my eldest is almost 18 and it’s quite daunting, seems only yesterday he arrived!
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  6. Oh what a fab letter. 13 seems such an important age. I can not imagine being the mother of a teen!
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  7. Aaaaw just beautiful

    I’m only a few months away from this x
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  8. Aww this was a lovely read, hope he’s had a fab birthday x

  9. Awww, another teenager! Emotional stuff! I can’t even imagine mine getting to teenage years, but I am sure it will fly by and be here before I know it. Great advice to him for any age really! Hope he is enjoying being 13 so far. x

  10. Happy birthday, Luke! What fantastic advice. I can’t imagine my children as teenagers but I’m sure the time will fly by. I hope Luke had a fantastic time celebrating.
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  11. A lovely letter, I hope he’s read it, happy belate birthday, I dread my girls turning teenagers lol #binkylinky
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  12. This is lovely and very moving! What a very nice way to remember this special day!

  13. What a lovely letter, I have tears in my eyes x
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  14. Beautiful! I’m sure your lovely boy will look back at this letter and know how much he is loved! #binkylinky
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  15. Aww sweet! Really really sweet letter to read and I am sure that your son would love reading this too. Kids are so precious and I hope they know how much they are loved always and this letter showed just that, love!

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  16. Aww what a beautiful post! And such cute photos.
    I hope he had a very happy birthday and a wonderful 13th year!
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  17. AW What a lovely post! Gosh time goes so fast doesn’t it…too fast. I hope he had a great birthday, what a milestone!
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  18. What a truly lovely letter to your son :) Wishing him a very happy birthday – I hope you all have a great time. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x
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  19. Lovely letter. I bet the past 13 years has flown by. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky
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  20. What beautiful way to mark his birthday with a letter a wonderful keepsake for him great post thanks for linking to the Binkylinky.
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  21. What a lovely letter, one to cherish! I hope your 13 year old had a great birthday!

  22. Such a beautiful letter and so much love transcending. I hope he reads it and understands the depth of your love for him.xx
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  23. aw how lovely, im sure he is a total credit to you

  24. A lovely letter to a new teen – Happy Birthday young man x
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  25. What a gorgeous post!! My eldest boy will soon be heading for teenagerness too – just as my daughter leaves her teen years behind! I think I get a whole two months where I am not the parent of a teenager before it starts all over again!
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